in the spirit of valentines i figured i would talk about love for a brief moment. while the idea of being in love is fascinating not everyone is blessed to share that special day like the rest of the world. now please don't think I'm bitter when i say this, but honestly we hype this day up on steroids and its hard to accomplish anything when you have the pressures of what you should actually do on this day. for those couples out there congrats on having a valentines and i wish you all many more, but for all us singles this is a day we should celebrate also. i will say that this past week has been extremely hard for me to come to grips with, until about 20 minutes ago.
i've always hated that my birthday has fallen so close to valentines day, not that i hate my birthday, but that i have to share it around the same time as valentine's day. i can't really express why in writing because it's just not going to come out right, but ill do the best i can i suppose. each year you get slammed in the face by those people who are madly in love walking down the street holding hands and being all lovey dovey, that it honestly nauseates me now. however there are four couples that i have come to look up to in many ways and know that while I'm waiting to spend this day with my mister special that its worth it…the first one is my brother Chris and his girlfriend Kara. although they are young they bring a new level of respect for me in the love department. teenagers now a days (way for me to sound old hahaha) have way more pressures on them than i did when i was in high school. whether its pressure to do drugs or go to the biggest parties, these two kids have so much respect and love for each other that it blows me away. they are honestly taking their time getting to know each other and not letting these things sway them. they have overcome a lot in the close to 4 short months that they have been together and its amazing how they just truly love and care for each other.
the next one is my Aunt Sue and Uncle Chris. the ultimate high school sweet hearts. speaking of overcoming much adversity is these two. these two have fought tooth and nail for each other over the years and it has shown me that sometimes there is that person worth fighting for, that no matter what people around you are saying that you sometimes just need to beat your own drum because it rings out louder than the rest.
one of my favorite couples that i've looked up to for probably all of my life is my mom and dad. another couple who has overcome so much in their almost 20 years together. they both came in with baggage (aka us 3 older kids) and fought for everything that they have. they have loved each other through the hard times and when it was easy to throw in the towel they decided to fight through it. they have been one of the first to show me that sometimes baggage isn't always bad. i give them props. my parents would rather go without for years than to have us kids go without anything and never ask for anything for it. thanks mom and dad!
last but certainly not least are my Nona and Poppy. going on close to 60 years strong these two have been my definition of the perfect marriage. although i know some of the stories growing up weren't always the best these two never gave up on each other. more recently they have showed me that you never give up ever! over the past 5 years they have proved this countless times. just about 5 years ago my Nona was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and was given about 5 years to live fully. my Poppy never stopped fighting though. he has taken her to get vitamin b12 shots, been by her side when she was really losing it and honestly has been her rock to bring her back to the somewhat normal everyday routines of her life. just about 3 months ago the roles were reversed and she became his rock and foundation. they are each other lives and reasons to get up and live everyday. they are the fairy tale marriage that i want one day, although its not with prince charming and a beautiful princess their story will ring out loud through all of history even if its my own.
why am i sharing this? because i do believe in love, even on days and weeks when its hard. i believe that one day each one of these relationships is possible to accomplish. i believe that there is such things as fairy tale love although defined differently than what snow white, or cinderella may define it as. and as i wait patiently for my "prince charming" i know that it is worth fighting for and that he is out there. each of these couples teach me everyday the true meaning of love and that no matter what life may throw at you to never give up on that person!! so happy valentines day ladies and gents and for all you singles out there, there is hope and you have to first love yourself before you can honestly allow someone else to love you, because if you don't than how do you expect someone else to love you for you….
